The first step on the Path is to know what you want, not what you ought to want.
Only in this way can the pilgrim set out upon his journey fully prepared. Otherwise he is like a general that leads a campaign into an unknown territory, who, instead of ascertaining his own strength and the strength and position of his foe, concerns himself only with what he imagines these things ought to be. And however good his imaginations, he will without doubt lead his army into a hell.
But you see, this brings up a problem. How do you know what you truly want – and what you have been feed to think you want?
We have been playing and in this game for so long that we have forgotten true self and have taken on the identity of the character we are playing as being ourselves.